This was supposed to be a post filled with witty banter.
I had it right there on my iCal, so you know it must be true. Tuesday, September 13th: blog something witty. Then make dentist appointment.
Ok, so it didn’t actually say that. But it may as well have, because the plan had already been made. It was all laid out.
And I knew exactly what I was going to write about too. It was going to be this whole post about how when we went apple picking together, Justin had asked that the mayo for his sandwich go on the top slice of bread. The top mind you, not the bottom. Because that’s where the oil and vinegar should go. Clearly. And how this two-prong sneak attack on the ham and swiss from both sides would be a military strategy even Churchill himself would approve of. See….witty.
But here’s the thing….it’s also fluff.
Because the truth is, this week has been a really hard one. Earlier this week we had a death in the family, and then just yesterday we found out my best friend had suffered a really hard loss too. It’s the thick of busy season and life has been blowing by way too fast. Just when I’m being reminded of how short and precious it really is.
And I want to be honest about that. Honest with you about the hard stuff. About the not so pretty stuff. Because the truth is, it’s not all bubble gum and pink balloons no matter what it might look like from the outside. Life is messy and it’s complicated. And at times it’s really, really hard. And sometimes it just plain hurts. But that’s also part of what makes it so beautiful. Because there are no guarantees. Life offers no promises. And we just have to hold on to it with both hands as tightly as we can while it’s here for the holding.
This morning I got an email from one of my favorite couples ever telling me that he has been battling an illness for the past year. And it’s been really, really hard for them. And at times, it’s just plain hurt. Because they don’t have any guarantees. And then she thanked us. Thanked us for giving an honest portrayal of life and love, and for reminding her of the beauty of life during one of these less than beautiful times.
And here I was just going to write something witty.
So I think if it’s ok, for today I’ll just go ahead and deviate from the plan. Throw it out altogether. There’ll be time for wittiness down the road. But for today, I just want to make this post about two people taking time out of the craziness of life to hold on to one another as tightly as they can. To soak in every moment and not let a second of everything that’s so beautiful about this life together pass them by. To take mental snapshots of the thousand different little quirky things that make up the exact combination of who they are. Right now. In this moment. Together.
And to the couple who emailed this morning, it is you who reminded us of that.
So trust me when I say, it us who should be doing all the thanking.