This past week Justin & I traveled to The Netherlands to speak at the first ever Dutch Wedding Congress, where we got to meet some incredible people and were blown away by the hospitality we were shown there (more on our trip to come). While we were there over for those 9 days, we really got the chance to sit & get to know some of the Dutch attendees who introduced us to a saying that is common to the culture there. It goes a little something like this: “Just be normal & then you’re crazy enough.”
In other words, just reaching a small or average amount of success in this life is already pretty crazy to think about…so who are we to think about the really BIG dreams? Or in other other words, just be happy where you are… because who are you to ask for more?
Having just given a talk that was all about not settling, dreaming BIGGER dreams & actually doing something about them, not giving in to Fear, and even showing the Apple commercial “Here’s to the Crazy Ones”….this idea rocked me. The idea that playing small could be so expected in a place that it could be put into slogan form, was something I just couldn’t wrap my head around.
But then I started thinking.
Even if we don’t have an official slogan for it, isn’t this sort of “who am I to chase a dream” (or something we see even more commonly in the wedding photography industry, the “who are YOU to chase a dream”) kind of thinking, something that’s really more of a human problem than a Dutch problem? Isn’t it something that we all struggle with from time to time? This idea that maybe we aren’t really worthy of the dreams that have been put in our hearts. That there is a certain level that we are capable of reaching and nothing higher. That this is the way it always has been and therefore the way it always will be in our lives.
Even if we don’t have an official slogan for it, don’t we all know what it is to be tempted to give in to the pressure to play small?
But something that we talked about both in our talk & one on one with attendees, to counteract this pressure to play small is to not make it about you. That when that temptation comes to stand on the sidelines or stay in the shadows and watch someone else chase your dreams, instead ask yourself one of the following two questions:
1. Who sacrificed for you? Who gave up something in their own lives so that you could one day have more? And when you settle, when you play small, what does that do to honor that sacrifice? And…
2. Who are you setting an example for? Who is looking to you to pave the way and show by your actions what they are capable of doing in their own lives? (I’m talking to you moms & dads out there!)
Because when we think about it that, we see that chasing these dreams is not really an option but an obligation. Not something that we owe ourselves, but something that we owe the world.
The greatest thing about these conversations we had while we were over in Holland, was that they were not with people who are in fact buying into the party line to play small but instead the people who are challenging the status quo. People who are daring to dream bigger dreams and then going out and actually doing something about them. Because they’re not fond of rules, and they’re not much for being told what they can or cannot do. So to each and every one of the incredible hearts we met over this past week, what I say to you is this….
Stay crazy. Because you push this industry (and this world) forward.
Here’s to the crazy ones!
Go get it,
So tell me because I want to know: Who sacrificed for you to make this life of yours possible? Who are YOU setting an example for? List them out & then make a promise to yourself to honor that obligation. And…GO!