We sent this post out yesterday in our January newsletter, and mostly we plan on keeping the content of the newsletter just for well….the newsletter! :) But afterwards we got quite a few notes and emails from people saying that this post had really helped. And that it was something they really needed to read right now. So we thought just this once, we’d post it here too. In case it could help anyone else.
We sat in the Starbucks parking lot and I whispered I don’t want to go in.
He looked at me with about the exact amount of shock and bewilderment you might expect from him hearing me say that statement. In that particular parking lot. He blinked emphatically. Twice. And then switched off the key. We were there to do our goal writing for the year; to write out a list of every tightrope we were going to walk and every world we were going to set on fire. But as he reached for the door, I sank lower in my seat in an attempt to meld myself directly into the leather. While keeping my eyes fixed on the notebook in my lap below.
It was flipped open to the very first page with the words “2011 Goals” written at the top. I had scanned the list as we were driving over, and I was realizing very quickly just how few of them we had actually met. Install the new kitchen, get new business cards printed, put on a workshop in the UK, get featured in this or that magazine. And I guess I just didn’t see any point in writing a brand new list, when we hadn’t even been able to accomplish the one we already had.
He looked at me squarely and said, Don’t do that. Don’t start a new year thinking you don’t get to dream bigger dreams just because everything you set out to do last year didn’t happen. We’ll get there, we always do. But before that can happen, you’re going to have to open that door.
As we start this new year, I hope you’ll leave behind every trace of regret. Every should’ve. Every could’ve. Every would’ve. Every time you got lost, every time you got turned around, every time you found yourself chasing someone else’s dream. Let this be the year that you allow yourself to dream the most impossible things. And trust that the ones that are meant to stick, will. A new year is not just about getting a do-over on the things that are still left to be done; it’s about going out and doing the things you never even thought possible in the first place.
But before that can happen, you’re going to have to open that door.