October 9, 2014

Pancake Session: The Benefits of The First Look

For the longest time, Justin & I didn’t push one way or another on whether or not our couples would be doing a First Look with their wedding day timeline.

It’s always been really important to us and one of our guiding goals on the wedding day that we “tell the story without becoming too much a part of it.” And so for the longest time, we shied away from talking too much about the First Look even though we knew that it would make the day flow SO much more smoothly because we didn’t want to recommend something simply because it would make our lives easier.

But then we started realizing what a HUGE difference it makes in the kind of day our couples were having. It was completely night and day and the difference between a rushed, stressed out, no time for photos, missing half the party to play catch up and missing all the good food at cocktail hour kind of day…..and a relaxed, fun, get three times as many photos, family & bridal party photos are actually fun, spend more of the day together, enjoy every second of your party kind of day!

And that was what made us change our mind about recommending- even pushing for- the First Look. That as the experts and having seen hundreds of these days happen, we KNOW what a difference this can make. Finally this year, we put together the top 7 reasons that a First Look makes the entire day better and when our couples are on the fence about whether or not to do one, we send that list over and they almost always opt to see each other beforehand….the biggest reason being, they hadn’t realized just how much it impacts the entire day! (**Note that if after seeing the list, they still decide to wait until the ceremony to see each other, we always respect their decision! We just like to make sure they have all the info before deciding!)

I know a lot of us realize how amazing a First Look makes the whole day go, but it can be hard putting that into words to explain to your clients when they haven’t had the benefit of seeing it go both ways. So we are going to be sending out our full list of the 7 things we tell all of our couples now in favor of the First Look that does the work of explaining it for us, this afternoon in our next J&M newsletter! We’ve included a sample from the list below & just be sure to click “receive our email newsletter” at the bottom of this post to get signed up and receive all 7 reasons later today!

4. It makes the family photos go three times faster! When we do the family photos before the ceremony, we can usually crank them out in about 15 minutes using our “family photo football” approach. But when we have to wait to do the family photos until after the ceremony, once all the guests are there & there are plenty of distractions from that and cocktail hour going on, these photos can take up to 3-4 times longer usually taking up all of cocktail hour. The reason for that, is that with so much else going on and so many more people to talk to, some family members always end up wandering away either to talk to some one or help take care of something. And that holds every combination that they’re in up. Usually what happens next is that someone goes to get them, and now we’re missing two people! And so on! Add to that fact that you can actually see the party going on without you, and now not only are the family photos actually taking three times as long to do….but they FEEL like they’re taking 10 times as long because all you want to do is get to the party & start enjoying your day! We can tell you from years of experience that this leads to a lot of tension and snapping at family members on what should be such a happy day. When we can get these photos done before the ceremony, everyone is present, focused on the task at hand, and we can all actually all have FUN with the photos!

Happy Thursday friends!
M:)

**Note that if you’re interested in learning more about how we run a whole wedding day including the timeline, family photos, managing the bridal party, portraits in a time crunch, dark churches/receptions & more, we have only SIX spots remaining in our last Walk Through a Wedding workshop of the year taking place on November 5th in New Haven, CT. Click HERE to reserve your spot today & be sure to use the code “EARLYBIRD” to grab $150 off our seat!!

  1. Abbie

    great read, totally agree!

  2. Amy

    SOOOOOO excited about this!!

  3. Betsy McCue

    Oooh, I love the family photo explanation. Good stuff, you two!
    We just had a couple change their mind to not do a first look a week out from the wedding and it was such a bummer! I love the idea of putting together an education piece ahead of time listing all our reasons out! XOXO

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