April 2, 2012

Stop & Smell the Cherry Blossoms

We were just having one of those I just don’t like you very much, thank you very much sort of days.

Those of you who are married or have been together a while will understand. Occasionally you just have those days. Those days where it’s like honey I love you, you know that I do. But I swear to the archangel Will Ferrel if I hear you slurp those cheerios one more time, I’m gonna fly at you like a spider monkey. All hopped up on Mountain Dew. Put the. bowl. down. Step awayyyy from the remaining milk. Back up slowly. And nobody has to get hurt.

Yea, it was one of those days.

The work was piling up. Our to-do list was spinning out of control. And I…I was spinning myself into tiny circles. Kind of like the love child of Michelle Kwan and Speedy Gonzalez. But y’know without the sombrero…or all the sparkly outfits.

Something. had. to. give.

I needed to get some new head shots anyway for a conference I’ll be speaking at this fall (more on that to come). So we grabbed a camera and headed down to Wooster Square, to catch the last of the cherry blossoms before they’re gone. And let’s be honest, some fresh air would do us good. So he packed a picnic, and I tried to leave my bad attitude at home. And off we went.

When we got there, it was like happy couples on parade day. Every where I looked there were young lovers walking hand in hand, wearing matching trench coats, and gazing lovingly at the pink petals overhead. I swear to you one couple even started waltzing. WALTZING. Right there in the middle of the square. I mean, I half expected blue birds to come land on their shoulders and start singing them a song. While a team of mice made her a new dress.

All of which I said out loud. And even though he was mad at me, really really mad at me… he couldn’t help but laugh. What can I say, I’m funny when I’m bitter. He smiled. And I smiled… And then we waltzed in the square.


But we did find ourselves holding hands more. Gazing upward more. And slowing down enough to find each other again.

J, I’m so thankful for you. Thankful for your incessant cereal slurping. Thankful that you’re the kind of guy who packs picnics. And thankful that I have you to remind me to slow down. To breathe deeply. To laugh more. And that every now and then it’s ok to stop completely…

and smell the cherry blossoms.

I’m stuck in a tree. Send help.

So see that shot there on the left? Yea, we were trying to get it with the self timer. Which really just involved Justin running back & forth a lot. Needless to say it wasn’t working. We were on our 477th try, when this incredibly kind person offered to take it for us. Turns out, she’s also a photographer in the area named Kelly Jensen. And she took it for us without even charging! :) How lucky was that?! Thanks Kelly!!

  1. Abby Grace

    Mary, you are so flipping cute. And don’t sweat it- I totally get those bitter days too. Only I usually end up projecting it into my editing, and then I have to go back and re-do whatever I edited on my "bad attitude day." Happy Monday!

  2. Tiffany Farley


  3. sharon elizabeth

    "I’m stuck in a tree send help" LOL … I love your vulnerability in this post!!!! Waltz away!!! =)

  4. Graham

    Looks like you’re perfectly happy being "stuck in the tree!" :)

  5. Christa

    You two look fabulous!! Mary I want your whole outfit :) And I totally get the "not liking each other" days…glad you took time to smell the cherry blossoms. Beautiful images.

  6. Gail

    Yep, yep, we all have days like that every now and then with our spouses, don’t we? Love that you two turned it around — and amidst cherry trees no less! Sweet post!

  7. Alison

    I think the waltzing may have caused me to lose it:) Glad I am not the only one who loosens the mental edit button when having a not so great day! LOVE that first shot of you Mary!!

  8. Jill

    You look beautiful! And I love that you admit you get annoyed with your husband. I, too, am married to a cereal-slurper. I’m so glad that I’m not alone!

  9. athena

    I heard once that love stories aren’t just about waltzing to no music in a park bursting with cherry blossoms – but rather about the moments when you get so mad you want to scream, the nights spent on the couch, the slammed doors. Love stories are about all of it – the good *and* the bad. If we didn’t have those days – like the one you had recently – we wouldn’t appreciate the fleeting moments when we look at our other and fall, head over heels in love, all over again. For no specific reason at all. Love is about all of it. It’s important for people to remember struggle – that everyone does struggle. Whether that’s in starting a photography business, or keeping a marriage lasting and alive…and TOGETHER. Life, and everything in it, is a series of ups and downs. The hard work is the slow, steady, difficult climb so that for a moment, however fast and fleeing, we can race downhill, wind in our hair, stomachs somersaulting wildly, and a smile as wide as you can muster across our cheeks. In our eyes.
    As always, thank you so much for letting us into your lives. The good, the bad, and the slurpy.

  10. Bethany Ann

    LOVE this post! :) I love it too, because I can totally relate. Happy Monday. :)

  11. Lena

    Love this..we all have those days, and it’s great to take time to get back to being happy!

  12. Kimberly

    Love the honesty of your words. As I was reading this post, my mind wandered to thinking about my husband, whom I affectionately call a "hungry savage" when he’s eating. Okay, maybe not so affectionately. LOL. After almost 3 years of marriage and 15 years of knowing each other, we get under each other’s skin but wouldn’t trade the other for the world!

  13. Karen Bonar

    "I swear to the archangel Will Ferrel if I hear you slurp those cheerios one more time, I’m gonna fly at you like a spider monkey. All hopped up on Mountain Dew. " … HYSTERICAL – and TOO TRUE about marriage! :) :) :)

  14. Elizabeth

    Sometimes you just have one of them days….funny I seem to have em every day lately. You guys are so lucky to just get a breather and step out of the office, you don’t have to answer to anyone. Love the pics especially the first one!

  15. Mike Kelly

    Regarding your self-portrait, might I recommend using the built in intervalometer on your camera body? Set your camera up on its tripod, tell the camera to shoot every 3 seconds or so, voila, make-shift photobooth just for you two! It’s under the Shooting Menu => Interval timer shooting. No more running back and forth to the camera and breaking the mood and pose of your self-portrait!

  16. Emilia Jane

    YOU ARE GORGEOUS MARY!!! That first picture may be my favorite of you EVER. And yay for picking up, laughing through the fights, and holding hands. HUGS!

  17. Priscilla Collins

    Hi Guys! Thank yo so much for the pix, the event was a huge success!
    Randy to the Rescue will air this summer, I will keep you posted!

    You two remind me of my husband and I sometimes…we felt this way last week but it didn’t last long…I ended up telling him to forget what I said what he was doing to annoy me and that would take him"as is"….
    Hahaha! What can I say, we are in love!

  18. Lauren Wakefield

    Ooooh…LOVE these!!! The colors are perfect! And you guys are so funny…we’ve all had those days. More than I’d like to admit. :)

  19. Brittani

    Thank you for the laugh today, Mary. So, so relateable! And your headshots are stunning :)

  20. Rici

    Oh, Mary! You wrote lovely! At the point where the mice entered I was laughing out loud and scaring my room mate once more! You look absolutely lovely in the pictures! and beautiful light!!! Have a good week – from Tuscany.

  21. molly stillman

    LOVE this story. so wonderful. so honest. and the photos are fabulous (that teal shirt is TO DIE FOR)

  22. ashley barnett

    I l o v e your shirt Mary! And this post. I’m happy that within all the chaos you are still able to find balance and each other. :)

  23. Ciiku

    Hilarious….. and sweet! :-)

  24. Stephanie Stewart

    Oh, Mary! You are gorgeous! So glad you two had some time for a picnic and cherry blossoms, love it!

  25. Kristin

    Mary, COULD YOU BE ANY MORE GORGEOUS?! I love y’all. It’s nice to see I’m not the only one with ‘those days’. Have a great day! :D

  26. Christy

    You two are soooo cute. And I LOVE that first pic of you Mary! Also – James and I had one of THOSE days on Saturday. Next time I’ll have us step outside together and get away for a minute – maybe that would have helped! ;)

  27. Lexi

    As always, such a great and heartfelt post Mary! Absolutely love these shots of you – especially the first one! Gosh you are SO gorgeous!

  28. Jessica Frey

    Oh my, yes. I’ve had a few of those moments recently after 8 years of marriage! Beautiful post and stunning photos lady :) *and any blog post referencing Cinderella gets my 5 star approval and high fives! Thanks for the laugh today!

  29. Lydia

    J&M, you two are such an inspiration to me! Not just in photography, but in life. I feel confident that two people in this world can stick it out through thick and thin, the good and the bad, from knowing you two!

  30. rich

    very nice head shots from none other than the light whisperer!

  31. Alicia Iezzatti

    OK, you guys just made me feel SOOO much more normal ;-)

  32. Kare

    How is it you just KNOW when I need a post like this? You must, because I most certainly did. I had a funky weekend, which turned into a funky Monday, which turned into TEARS when I read this. I have my own J who I am very much thankful for – although I sometimes forget to tell him as often as I should. This is my reminder. As always, lovely shots, lovely words, love you guys.

  33. Kris Rae Orlowski

    Ha! What’s so funny to me is I was JUST at Wooster Square on Friday. AND you bumped into my friend Kelly J. She’s so nice!

  34. Nancy Mitchell

    So sweet! I am counting down the days until I get to meet you two!

  35. Anastasia

    I am in love your writing Mary, you two are making my days brighter :) Especially with those AMAZING photos and the gorgeous outfit.

  36. Jessica

    So pretty! LOVE the first picture of you!

  37. Shannon Rosan

    Uhhhh!! First of all you are so pretty! Second of all…it is probably obvious, but I just adore reading your blog. Every. Single. Time. So, thank you for sharing your life…even the married bickering fight kinda days, cereal slurping and all :)

  38. Josh & Kylie

    Great images guys. I couldn’t get the strawberries out of my head as I continued to scroll!

  39. Carissa

    This is hilarious and precious all at the same time! And that first picture of you? SMOKING!!! You guys are so beautiful together… And on that note, I think I might make Jake waltz around the living room with me. Or something like that.

  40. Tira J

    You two are adorable! Love you.

  41. Lisa Cour

    Love the softness of those! And that fact that cherry blossoms are blossoming. :) You have such a grace about you, Mary.

  42. Mia Bjerring

    These photos are gorgeous Mary! You are so stunning! And what a sweet thing that Kelly did for you two :)

  43. maggieb

    So! Mary! When ARE you writing your first book?…always love your amazing funny snippets and universal connections! "The most wasted day of all is that in which we have not laughed."
    And you have the perfect author photo right here in this blog too! Oh, so beautiful.

  44. Jolynn

    I totally can relate to having that kind of day. How sweet of him to pack a picnic lunch!

  45. Faye Bernoulli

    OMG I nearly fell out of my chair laughing at the Talladega Nights reference…and I’m kinda bummed neither one of you is wearing a tuxedo shirt (next set of head shots?!).

  46. Sarah Wamuhiu

    I love this post. My hubby and I are also photographers and sometime that stress of working together can really take a toll! Its good to know we aren’t the only ones who have those kinda days. I think grabbing the camera and having some fun together is the best way to cure them! :)

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