September 23, 2011

Thank You

This week I had to do one of the hardest and proudest things of my life….deliver the eulogy at my Grandma Goldie’s funeral.

I talked about how she would wrap Christmas presents so early that she would forget what was inside or indeed who they were to. I talked about how she went snow tubing down Liberty Mountain at the ripe old age of 72. And I talked about how she was a charmer with a propensity for a lead foot, who once talked herself out of three speeding tickets in the space of just ten minutes. From the same deputy.

She was legendary, my Grandma Goldie. And now she’s gone.

She will be missed so dearly, and I think the void that she left is not yet comprehendible. But I know that she will live on in story, larger than life, for as long as I can see to it.

I wanted to say thank you.

Last night we got home, road weary and broken hearted, to an avalanche of love. Cards, letters, facebook messages, emails and blog comments. You poured out your hearts to us, wrapped us in your comfort, and shared sacred stories of your own grandmas and the holes in your hearts that they have left behind. And I can never begin to thank you enough for that. See, I think sometimes we start to think of a blog as just something you are supposed to do. One piece of the puzzle in the clever marketing campaign born of the social media age. But the truth is, it’s life that’s being shared here. Real life. Our lives. Your lives. And the spaces in between. And if this blog never does another thing for us, it will be more than enough. Because it brought us to all of you. People I am lucky to consider friends. People I am lucky to have standing beside us during one of the less beautiful times. Your friendship means the world to us. Your words mean the world to us. And I want you to know that it counts.

So thank you, thank you, thank you for that.

Goodbye to clocks ticking….and Mama’s sunflowers. And food and coffee. And new ironed dresses and hot baths, and sleeping and waking up. Oh, earth,you are too wonderful for anybody to realize you. Do any human beings ever realize life while they live it? Every, every minute?

  1. Stacie Shea Events

    Mary you are in my thoughts and prayers! I lost my grandfather on Sept 8th so I completely understand everything you are going through. I was a pallbearer and in no way would have been able to deliver a eulogy. That is so incredibly strong of you! Thank you for being so true in your blog posts…Its always refreshing to see that everyone lives life and blogs are just that..your life…not just the ups…its the downs as well…

  2. Whitney Gray

    I’m SO sorry to hear about your grandmother’s passing, Mary. I remember your first post about Grandma Goldie and it brought back sweet memories of my own grandparents. My prayers are with you and your family.

  3. Gina Meola

    What a blessing for her to live on through you – and to be loved by so, so many. Thanks, Mary.

  4. Nicole Benitez

    Love you! I have been thinking of you and praying for you guys all week. With tears in my eyes for a woman that I had never met, but has touched my life through your stories.. May she live her new life proud of the woman she has shaped you to become and rejoice when you meet again.

  5. Monty Jessop

    Oh Mary, You’ve made my water works turn on today. I’m so sorry that your Grandma Goldie has left you here in this life. But I know you will see her again someday. She’s always with you in spirit as you continue on your way through this life. You and Justin a two of the most genuine people I’ve become friends with in this life. I truly appreciate both of you and I’m certain that your Grandma Goldie’s influences in your life contributed to the amazing person you are today. With Love Monty. xo

  6. Jasmine*

    Love you…and praying tons for you during this time. xxxo.

  7. Ashley Scobey

    We love you and are sending warm thoughts of comfort your way. We are so sorry that you are hurting – now you have a legendary angel watching over you :)

  8. Kris Rae Orlowski

    My heart goes out to you, Mary. As the official patriarch-to-be of my family, I know too well the pain that comes with these rough times. After my last grandparent died last year, my father almost literally passed me the torch, and I had to give my first eulogy for my sister-in-law’s untimely passing just 2 months ago. Nothing in this world is harder than loosing your loved ones.

    It’s clear to me, as your friend, and to the world that you honor your Grandmother’s memory every day by carrying on with the same charisma, spunk and zest for life that she gave to you.

    *big hugs*

  9. Nikki

    Mary – I am so sorry to hear about your Grandma :( I am just seeing this now. She was an amazing lady and I cannot begin to imagine the hurt you are feeling right now. Please know that you and your entire family are in my prayers. I will never forget her and what a cheerleader for you she was. She loved you so very much – you could see it in the way she looked at you and how she talked non stop about you every time I had a chance to talk to her. If you ever need anything at all – don’t hesitate to call. We miss you!!

  10. Cheryl

    I am SO sorry to hear of such a great loss in your life. She sounds like she was an incredible lady and I can see now where you get your fire from :) I’m sending you great big huge hugs, love, and prayers xoxoxo

  11. Jessica

    Mary and Justin,

    So VERY sorry for your loss. I know how much she meant to you. My prayers are with you guys and your family.

  12. Emily

    So sorry to hear this – praying for you guys – for comfort & peace. :)

  13. spring

    i mailed my letter from STL to my grandfather yesterday. thank you for pushing me to write it and for helping me find the courage to send it. xoxo

  14. Kristin Nicole

    So sorry to hear of your loss, sending thoughts and prayers your way through this difficult time.

  15. Caitlin

    oh Mary, I didn’t get over here this week and am just reading the last few posts. I am so sorry for your loss. I have always loved the stories of your grandmother, I am so happy that you sent her that letter, and even happier to know that you shared her here with all of us. She lives on in such a huge way because of that. Sending so much love, wishing I could drop by and give you a hug. xoxo

  16. Elizabeth

    Losing anyone is os hard, but always remember she is with you no matter what. I lost my mom two years in October so this time of year gets hard for me, I find I just want to be myself…miss her so much. But I know she is around, when we drove home from the hospital, a little red cardinal flew in front of my car like he never flew before. It was my mom’s favorite bird. To this day, whenever a red cardinal appears I know it’s my mom. Just recently at my home one actually flew up to my back patio and kept looking in the house, and yes, I talked to it and knew it was my mom wishing me a happy birthday, she had never seen our home due to her illness and could travel very far. You all probably think I am nuts now. Hang in there Mary

  17. Nancy Mitchell

    I love getting a glimpse of your REAL LIFE on your blog…loveya girl! Hang in there and so sorry for your loss of Grandma Goldie! Hugs~xoxo nance

  18. Kristin

    Hugs, hugs, and hugs as well as my condolences. She sounds like a marvelous lady.

  19. LEOLAK

    Hope the words and love sent your way continue to comfort you during this time.

  20. Paul Manke

    You know you have plenty of support! Many of us would gladly be a shoulder to cry on or a friend just to talk to.

    I lost my mother and 3 grandparents within a very short time. I know the pain. And sometimes you just need a good hug and a good cry! And don’t worry, those crying moments will sneak up on you! But you have more support than any one I know!

  21. deb perry

    you’re right, Mary, it does count…it SOooo counts. Hugs as you recuperate from a long emotional week. ;)

  22. maggieb

    Blessings…and thank you for touching our hearts.

  23. Sherrie Hartman

    Mary, I’ve been thinking about you a lot this week…I, too, had a Grandma Goldie…those good ole WV girls :o) Sorry for your loss. Your memories are yours to keep. Keep them alive. My thoughts are with you.

  24. Chase Williams

    Love you guys so much!! We are here for you!! We have been thinking a lot about you!! Our thoughts and prayers are with you!

  25. Marcie Revens

    So sorry to hear about your grandmother! Sending warm thoughts your way!

  26. Tira J

    Mary, I am so sorry to hear about your grandmother. Please forgive me for this late response. I have LOVED hearing all of the great stories of Grandma Goldie, and I know that she will live forever in your heart and the hearts of your entire family. May you have continual peace during this time. We are praying for you all. Lots of love. xoxo

  27. Shannon Rosan

    Mary – Words just don’t do justice in times like these. I am so very to hear about your grandmother. Sending hugs your way.

  28. Sarah

    Wow. So after the Boston WTW and the DC Smug meeting, I began to really think about my WHY’s. I knew without a doubt that it’s because of the people in the photographs – the happy smiling faces of the b&g, friends & family that preserve that moment, prove that love & life existed. I also thought how heartbreaking for you & Justin to lose your grandmother, and at all times when you had to work & put a smile on your face. Little did I know that in just over 24 hours of that DC Smug meeting that I left gung-ho on my "WHY" and how to make it shine thru…it would literally hit home. I lost my grandmother, I had to push thru the workday composed & professional for my clients when I wanted to be anywhere but there. So KUDOS to you for being so strong & amazing for your client’s and celebrating their love when you had your own heartbreak. I know the experience & the loss has completely reinforced and empowered my WHY. xo

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