September 13, 2012

The Scars Make Us Stronger

The idea began percolating (coffee, ideas…a lot of things percolate in my life) while we were out in Portland to speak at the What If Conference.

And just like I like my coffee, the more I brewed on it the stronger it got.

It’s something that’s been on my heart for a while now, and when I finally had the space and time away to think and dream about it in Portland…everything started to become really clear for me.

I had at that point already done a couple of video blog posts on things photography related like the getting ready and shooting the ceremony. But what I realized when I really started to think about it, is that I wanted these videos to be about something more than that. That if I was going to commit to doing a video blog series, and y’know…showering, blowing out my hair and putting on clothes that are something other than yoga pants a couple of times a month :), then I really wanted those videos to come from the heart.

And while we were out in Portland giving our What If talk, I realized that the things that really get me fired up and the things that really come from the heart for me are more of the stuff that life is made of. Of dreaming big and doing bigger, getting back up when this world knocks you down, of falling down seven times but standing up eight. Of trying harder, fighting harder, and believing for more. And never ever once settling or backing down when it comes to this our one wild & precious life.

So if those are the kinds of things I talk about when I can write about anything in the world that I want….then why on earth wouldn’t they be the kinds of things I would talk about here with you guys?

That’s not to say that the photography posts aren’t important, and we will definitely be doing a lot more of those in the Pancake Sessions and possibly even a few video posts here and there.

But for now, I wanted to give this a real shot. And who knows, maybe this will be a HUGE flop. That’s definitely a possibility. :)

And right about now I’m pretty much shaking in my yoga pants as I hit publish on this.

But I’m going to push the button anyway so at least I can always look back and say I tried….and that it always came from the heart.
Happy Friday friends!

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  1. Lauren Wakefield

    You already know how I feel about this…but awesome job. So well said and that quote is amazing. Oh…and cute outfit. :)

  2. Shauna

    I think also what you are saying, is to own your scars; embrace them and acknowledge they are a part of you, they don’t define you but they do shape you and your future. Loved this! Thanks!

  3. Katie Yuen

    You will always amaze me Mary Marantz!

  4. Anatole OD

    A wonderful post, Mary! A life without scars is a life not lived, but it certainly is hard to face and show to the less agreeable moments of one’s past, no matter how much they may have shaped us! Nietzsche’s over-quoted, often-misconstrued "what doesn’t kill you…" statement definitely remains valid, if and only if you take time to own up to your scars and work on them!
    I look forward to more of those new posts!
    (P.S.: Nice necklace!)

  5. Emilia Jane

    Yes. Love the quote! And love you. And I can’t wait to see more :-) As always, XXOO

  6. Suzy G

    Love this post. I needed this. Thanks for always being true. You guys rock. :)

  7. Tiffany Farley

    I see big things, deep healing, and a door that just busted wide open. Get ready girl! Big things. :)

  8. Amanda

    Love this! We do something very similar with our business (we call it The Bower Project) where we tell the stories of people who are living in the midst of a season of pain and hardship. In fact, we’re publishing our very first Bower Story soon! thank you for bringing this side of storytelling to light!

  9. Monika Greenaway

    Thank you so much for sharing. I am so inspired by this post and your story.

  10. spring

    You my dear have a gift with words!!! I needed this today, as you know. Thank you. XOXO

  11. Marissa Rodriguez

    WHOA.WHOA. WHOA. Mary, WOW. Thank you so much for this beautiful post. I haven’t visited in a while and I miss you guys and your blog! And then of course, the day I decide to visit again THIS is the first thing I watch!? And now I’m sitting in front of my computer, veggie smoothie completely neglected because I’m crying, but smiling. Your video is EXACTLY what I needed today…I’m IN the process of going through one of these scars…nothing as serious as other people may be facing I’m sure but it’s a tough one for me and my business and this video just gave me SO much of what I need to continue on. Seriously. And then you had to go and read that amazing quote! That’s when the tears that had formed from listening to you speak broke through and sprinted down my cheek. I love you guys for posting this and I apologize for this long message, but for reals, thank you. *big huge hugs*

  12. Sharon Elizabeth

    You are a girl after my own heart!!!

  13. Debi

    Oh! How I LOVE your heart…you spoke right into my own today!
    Thank you, Mary!

  14. Kathryn Denelle Stevens

    Yes!!! Thank you for this, Mary.

  15. Tira J

    Thank you sweet Mary! I needed this video today after a really rough week. You inspire me! xoxo

  16. Kimberly Wilson

    Lovely!! Scars so often scare us and make us feel ashamed… like we aren’t capable of becoming the best version of ourselves. Thank you for proving that wrong! Life is beautiful and it takes the not-so-beautiful to make us realize it sometimes. :) Love, always!

  17. ashley barnett

    LOVE IT. Love love love it!!

  18. Jessica Connery

    Amen Mary!!! you nailed this post and I hope you keep doing video. It’s always a pleasure hearing you speak.

  19. Katie

    wow, how amazing! Mary, you are so wonderful. thanks for sharing this with us. it means so much!

  20. Jackie

    Thank you for being real, Mary! You are amazing and so inspiring. Oh, and you look fabulous!

  21. Tiffany Bolk

    Gosh darnit! Would you stop making me cry again! I mean, thank you, that was lovely! :)

  22. Charissa

    Thank you for this! A wonderful reminder to keep fighting through. I truly appreciate everything you put into your posts.

  23. Gabrielle Halle

    Dear Mary I was just asking a question like this…or rather a couple questions. Is there a place for this? I mean…im just supposed to be doing photography… But what has really stuck with me lately is something you wrote about in The Guide- if you’re adding what everyone else is doing you’re already on the wrong track. It was the permission I needed to say… What if?? Really looking forward to that interview.

  24. Emily

    this was awesome. can’t wait for more!

  25. diane -

    I came across this today and it was much needed to hear. Thanks for putting it out there and for sharing.

  26. Anastasia

    I kept thinking about your post for the whole weekend Mary. What an inspiration you are. Photography is so far beyond the technical aspect of it, and what makes you who you are is also what makes you who you are as an artist, but we don’t talk about it enough. We should be proud of our scars, not hide them, you are exactly right, and thank you for the reminder to look back and appreciate the life lessions learnt, deeper insights gained. Can’t wait for more posts like this! x

  27. maggie

    thank you :) this was exactly what I needed to hear & read today!

  28. Emily

    I love this post! Thank you SO much! I’m looking forward to the new video blog posts!

  29. Jessica Vidmar Photography

    great video blog! very touching, moving. I had heard about you guys before but it was actually a shout out from that brought me to yours and I am grateful for that. Thank you! really looking forward to the next one : )

  30. Rachel

    You have no idea how this spoke to me and encouraged me to press on! Thank you so much for being real and vulnerable. When we are able to open up and share those scars it starts the healing process which can be extremely difficult. Keep up the great work!!

  31. Jennifer Bacchiocchi

    This is incredible, Mary. I love this idea! Can’t wait to see more.

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