One of the most powerful business conversations I’ve ever had, took place on the rooftop of the Pinnacle Building in Nashville in 95 degree sweltering heat with Abby Larson while we were arranging centerpieces for the Style Me Pretty “Inspiration to Reality” real wedding shoot that we photographed for them a few years back.
We were trying not to lose our minds from heat delirium, so we turned the topic of conversation to business to take our minds off the 52 centerpieces that we still had to make. And I asked one of my favorite business questions, “What has been one of the top 3 things you guys have done that has been responsible for your success?” Her answer floored me.
She said, “We’re not afraid to trim the fat. We’re not afraid to throw something out there, see if it works, and if it doesn’t to just take it back down and keep on moving without missing a beat.” In other words, she said they’re not afraid to make mistakes. They’re not afraid to try something and have it fail. Because they understand with utter certainty that that THING they tried might have happened to fail….but that doesn’t mean they did. So they just trim the fat and move forward, making the next thing they try even better because of that learning experience. That hit me like a TON of bricks…because here all along, I had been telling myself that every single step had to be perfect before we could move forward. And that if we had even one single misstep, the whole thing was doomed to failure. I realized in that moment, I had been terrified of making a mistake. I had been terrified of looking stupid.
Over the past few years, that advice has stuck with me so much. And when I look around at other successful people like Abby & Tait, I see that they all have that in common too. They’re not afraid to put themselves out there, they’re not afraid to take a chance on something and have it not work out. Because if it doesn’t, so what? There’s another thing they can try tomorrow. I hear SO many people in the workshops & mentoring sessions we do say, “But what if I try that and it doesn’t work??” And my response is always the same: Ok, so imagine that it doesn’t? Then WHAT? You stop doing that thing, you pick yourself up, and you try something else the next day. Because here’s the thing you guys: even if you are always taking two steps forward & only to have to take one step back, you’ll still always be further ahead than if you just keep standing still. So today, try something you haven’t tried before. Throw it out there & see if it sticks.
And if it doesn’t, just trim the fat & try again tomorrow. You’ll be better off for having tried.
Go DO something about those dreams of yours!