We sat out on the patio at our favorite Mexican restaurant, as a warm inviting breeze beckoned in the month of May. Sipping on frozen lime in the coconut margaritas and debating the merits of black bean enchiladas versus fish tacos, we felt whole. We felt calm. We felt the whole world move around us, but for just one moment…we felt still. Still enough to ask the hard questions.
I reached for a chip and drip-dropped salsa in my lap through the lattice-cut holes in the patio table. As I picked at the tomato stains on my favorite pair of blue jeans, I asked him the question without meeting his eyes.
Do you think I’ve done enough with the last year?
And just like that, as much as I have the grand ability to over-complicate things, to over-think them….he has a tendency of making it too simple. Too basic. Too easy to brush away.
No. I mean really. Do you think I did enough? I had so many plans for this year, so many big ideas, and I don’t feel like I’ve done any of it.
He sighed and looked at me with the face of exasperation that only a man who has driven thirteen thousand miles over the course of the past three months can.
Are you serious?
I blinked fat, stinging tears. Serious.
He nodded his head and stirred his straw while he searched to find exactly the right words. The words that would make it clear to me. The words that would actually sink in. And this is what he said:
You have to start focusing at least as much on your “What’s done” list as your “What’s left to do” list or you are never going to be happy. Ever. And then what will all of this have been for?
I sat stunned. Silent. Like someone had just put margarita salt on the wound. Because deep down, I knew that he was right. Every last word of it. I have absolutely no idea how far we’ve come because all I can ever see is how far we have left to go. How long the road stretches on ahead. How many mountains left to climb (Mylie, are you out there?)
And I know it has to change. If I ever want to be really happy.
So bear with me for just a moment, while I take a second to honor some of What’s Done. These are things that are months overdue at this point and I’m pretty much Captain After the Fact for even writing about them now. But here’s the thing…I write about them now because I don’t want to forget. I don’t want to let them slip away, lost in the dust cloud that’s left in the wake of the constant need to move forward.
For just this second, I want to be still. Still enough to hear the hard answers. And still enough to let them sink in.
In the past few months, we have been so, so blessed to be featured in some pretty cool places. Like Rangefinder Magazine and Professional Photographer Magazine.
Here’s the first page of the PPM spread.
And here is the one from Rangefinder.
We’ve also been so honored to have two of our couples featured in some awesome publications. First, Rachel & Terry just got an amazing spread in WV Weddings for their vintage Romance, WV wedding. That magazine came today and we couldn’t wait to get our hands on it!
And a couple months ago, we saw that Kristin & Chad had a beautiful spread in Brides Connecticut.
So there you go. That’s our “What’s Done” list for the day. I would love to hear yours. What are some major things on your to do list that you have checked off in the past year? Because really…they deserve to be celebrated.